Saturday, 30 November 2013
Saturday, 16 November 2013
I had never truly experienced the wonder of hugs before we came to live in England.
The French do hug between parents and children but that's about it. We seem to find better to leave saliva on each other cheeks... A gesture both incredibly intimate and yet more than often completely devoid of any meaning.
Now the English hugs, that's something! The first time I experienced the full power of the hug I badly needed it. Just that. The hug. The warmth. The conveying so much in so little.
We had just lost our first baby, our first boy. We had not long moved in England. We didn't know anybody.
So there we were, me even afraid of leaving the house most of the time.
It was Sunday and we were going to church, to a community we were just starting to know. K., who later became a dear, dear friend, didn't say anything but just hugged me, with tears in her eyes. One of these fierce, tender hugs, that aim to envelop you totally in love and comfort.
A hug is both deeply meaningful and physically comforting. Hugging releases oxytocin, the love hormon, which makes you feel good, helps you to relax and numbs pain too. That's why a hug is the best thing to give to anyone in general and to children in particular. When they're hurt, when they're upset, when they're frustrated, when they're cross, when you're cross. I don't think that to ignore a child who's having a tantrum is the best way to deal with the situation. Ignore the cause of the tantrum maybe, but hug the child!
Come on, you, give me a hug!!!
Friday, 8 November 2013
Even before that, when I was only a child I knew you from afar. In France Gros Quik and his énorme envie of hot chocolate must have been a regular companion of my favourite tv programs.
Thursday, 24 October 2013
Friday, 20 September 2013
A friend was recently relating how her 4 1/2 year old is starting to talk back and argument, and how she likes, in comparison, her youngest one's 'monkey talk'.
I agree that toddler talk is very sweet and that argumentation, when your patience is running thin and all you want is some peace, argumentation then is frankly quite annoying. Still the no-language phase had its downside too.
DB is now 23 months and not remotely bothered with learning to talk. Well she has two languages to learn for one thing, plus she's far too busy developing 'higher' skills (or so she seems to think) as observed in her siblings' doings. Saying 'No' and her brother's name with every possible inflection makes her content in expressing what she needs to express.
However... With her needs and wants getting more varied and complex Mummy's intuition isn't always enough to know what her dear little one wants. It can be extremely frustrating for both of us. Especially when, presented with the wrong offering, she starts whining. Oh the whining! That really gives me noise fatigue.
I know, I know, this week's cartoon is only vaguely linked to the post... It was inspired by a friend's status on Facebook about her daughter singing "J'aimerai toujours
Le temps des bêtises." (I will always love the time of silly things)
The real words being "J'aimerai toujours
Le temps des cerises." (I will always love the time of cherries).
Another kind of noise fatigue!